Guest Book for Nicholas "Nick" Charles McPhail

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Posted by: Tina Posey
Mon November 19, 2018
To the family of Nick, he was a long time friend of Blake Posey and myself, so sorry to hear of his passing he was a great guy. He will be greatly missed. Sending our condolences, sincerely The Posey Family
 

 
Posted by: Karl Schuman
Sat December 01, 2018
Condolences to all of Nick's 'family' which includes a ton of people, since whoever he really got to know, really became family to him. Nick was born in California, but as a little guy he and his military family moved to Montana, and Nick certainly considered himself a lifelong Montanan. We met while working at the west-side Safeway in Great Falls. Nick and I were inseparable in High School. It was at CM Russell that we found other guys who also just didn't fit in the mold of other established clicks, and found that we finally fit together with a group of nerdy, geeky, normal (to us), fun loving guys that finally made our own group; kind of like the island of misfit toys that finally found that they all fit in together! We would get together in groups of 3 or 4, and later those groups included girlfriends or fiancés. Nick had an ability to make anyone laugh, and always offered a different slant on life. Nick had a variety of jobs and some of those took him across the USA and into jet-setting lifestyles, and some in 'regular Joe' occupations. I'm sure that I was not only one doing this, but Nick had such a wealth of information and such natural ability that I seemed to always be reminding him that he had so much potential that he wasn't using. When we would talk about that he always seemed a bit lacking in self-confidence and that always made me sad, since he was so very gifted in so many ways. Being science majors, him in chemistry and physics, and me in biology, we were sometimes not in agreement about life after death and how life came to be. In later years, along with more input from others in the group, and plenty of questions from Nick, he finally came to a relationship with Jesus that answered so many questions for him and filled in his future for him. In that regards I will admit that I am not very happy with God at the moment. While I know that Nick is finally free of pain, and I know that it is selfish of me, but I wished for and planned for so many things that he could do with us and others once he got back to health. Nick always seemed to get the short end of things. He was taken advantage of by so many people, even family, which always puzzled him the most as to why, but through it all he had such a Christ-like understanding of grace and forgiveness that I was truly humbled by, as he really put that forgiveness and grace into action. Setback after setback and Nick just got back up, prayed about things, and stayed the course. In the last few years his wife Darlene suffered a stroke and was on the road to recovery, was walking with a walker, and was only months away from being released, when she was given a flu vaccine (after Nick had specifically made sure that all were aware and it was in her medical file at the hospital). She went into seizures and has never fully recovered. Nick being the kind of person that he is, changed his entire lifestyle so that he could be there whenever possible, even if it was just to watch Darlene sleep while he held her hand. Nick had some health setbacks himself, but was scared into reality and changed diet and other habits; and was just finally feeling that he was making headway back to health, when on a trip back from seeing Darlene at the nursing home in Bigfork he was rear-ended by a drunk driver in a truck going around 100 mph! His van rolled and rolled down the highway while the driver fled the scene. Nick’s health never got back on track as it seemed that the accident had somehow scrambled things in a way that never allowed for his body recover to be back to pre-accident health. Although the person that hit him should have some consequences, I know that even now, if Nick were alive, he would forgive the person. That’s just Nick! Crazy (in a good way)? Sure. Nuts, fatalistic at times? You bet - BUT - along with that was a comical, deeply caring, gifted, courageous, loyal, devoted husband, bother, and son who I had the pleasure of knowing and the honor of being able to call my dearest friend. So glad we share the same blood in the family of Christ. Till we see each other in heaven my friend. God’s peace to each of us that loved Nick and grieve his loss.